Forgiveness and trust!

When you walk with God there isn't any alternative to forgiveness!

Someone wrongs us we need to be able to forgive so that we can release the hold of bitterness from our heart.  So that the act that was done against us can no longer have a hold over us.

Let us add this to a relationship between husband and wife.  If your spouse does the unimaginable to you which breaks every bit of ounce of trust, where do you go from here?  Is there any hope for the relationship?
Don't get overwhelmed by the thought!  Forgiving someone does not mean they've earned your complete trust.  Matthew 6:15 says, "If you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."

Forgiveness isn't foreign to God, The Bible from Genesis to Revelation is full of constant examples of God's disappointment with Humanity, with His emotional anger and with His forgiveness.  Even though throughout the Bible we see people repenting of their sins and reaching out to God for forgiveness, God still tested the heart of the people to see how sincere they were with their repentance.  He also demanded and demands that repentance is followed by character change.  In other words if someone wronged God He would demand that the person works at regaining His trust again and He still does the same today.  God understands your need to have your trust built up when you've been disappointed  by someone.  We forgive when we love regarless of the offense but we trust when the other party works at regaining our trust.

If someone has disappointed you don't hold on to resentment.  That resentment is a silent killer of your joy.  Release yourself, forgive.  If the person that has wronged you is genuinely sorry for what they've done to you, than you will see their character change.  If you don't see change then his/her heart is still the same and another disappointment will certainly follow. 

In friendships it's easy to keep distance when we see that someone who has broken our trust hasn't changed their ways.  Even at a distance we need to pray for these people, however in a marriage distance can ruin the relationship.  Make strides to build up trust if you wronged your spouse and if you were the one wronged give your spouse the opportunity to show you that they want to make the marriage work.  Never cease to pray for your spouse.  you need to cover them with prayer every day.  Families and relationships are the number one target for the devil for destruction.  He wants to destroy God's most precious creation.  Persevere, if necessary forgive as often as needed and never give up Hope!