Marriage takes an inward change!

Change can be either temporary or permanent.
You can change for an instant to accommodate a certain situation or you can learn from your circumstances and make the initiative to become someone different than who you used to be.

In a relationship change is necessary so that we can fit in all the puzzle pieces to make the relationship work. 

Too often we can waste time focusing on our spouses faults and suggest the many different ways that he/she needs to change.  We try to create a mold to change our spouse to think, react and be just like ourselves.  We don't want to embrace the many unique ways of what makes us different and individuals which was probably the main reason why we fell in love with our spouse.

I don't want to confuse you.  Change is necessary in a marriage, but it is the responsibility of each individual to evaluate the change that is needed within.  You shouldn't be focusing on the many different ways that your spouse needs to change, what you need to focus on is what is it about yourself that you need to change!

Is it your lack of patience, your lack of self restrain, your judgment, your behavior, etc...

How are you developing your character?  Your character which consist of your reactions is what defines you.  How are you investing in your character?  Are you making strides to seek God's help on changing those reactions that have created a strain in your relationship?

Developing good character can't be done temporarily it has to be a permanent change!  I've found that it is something that i can't accomplish alone.  It's something that i need to seek in my relationship with God and through researching His Word.  Only through this i obtain the conviction of my faults and the start to a permanent change starts from within.  It starts with pursuing God so that we can develop a different way of thinking

Galatians 5:22-23 – “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

Don't worry about what your spouse needs to change focus on what you need to work on for yourself.  Let God do the work!  You will be amazed at the results you will see.