pick your battles!

There are times that it just stinks to be right.
I often think that the way that i like to do things is usually the right way.  There are times where i am so sure of how right i am that i don't understand why others don't see it the same way.
For example; I have a certain way of doing things at home.  I'm very organized and my husband isn't.  For many years we would get into arguments about how my way of doing things was the right way.  After a very long long long time i had to learn how to pick my battles.  Especially for a woman this is difficult to do.  As it is in today's society we feel that we have to be always defending ourselves.  Women haven't always had the upper hand and we had to fight for all the rights that we now have.  We had to fight for our right to vote, to work, for an education and even to preach.

I truly believe that woman are fighters.  We have survival skills that most men don't understand.  I have come to realize that we need to use these fighting skills to our advantage.  Most of us use it to fight against all the wrong things. 
One of the things i realized in my own marriage is that my husband needs to feel that he is the man of the house.  He works very hard to provide for us and loves to do so.  I see that he feels a sense of fulfillment when he is able to provide for us.  I had to learn that it is also equally important to allow for him to make decisions at home.  For years i have been asking him to order our shower door but he doesn't want one and would rather have shower curtains (which i don't like).  In the past i would of probably argue about it and get my way but i don't feel that putting that type of strain in my relationship is worth while any more. 
I really had to learn how to pick my battles.  Even if I'm right, lol!
Don't argue to show others that you are right all the time.  Trust me, if you are right God will show them without you having to argue.  Learn how to install peace in your home.  That peace starts with you.  If you don't have peace than you can't expect others to have it either.

Use your fighting skills to fight with prayer for what you believe that God can do in your life.  Use your fighting skills to pray for your children, don't accept for them to grow up in this crazy world and live life in an ungodly manner that will potentially destroy them.  These are the fighting skills you should be focusing on.  Not on arguing with your husband about the clothes he left on the floor.  Or how your way of doing things is the right way, learn how to have wisdom and be the peace that you need to have in your home. 
It is difficult enough  to go outside into the world and have to deal with the issues that rise up outside of our home so it is extremely important to create a peaceful environment in our homes.  Our home should be a safe haven for us and our family to come into not a war zone.
I pray that you strive to make this safe haven!