Can only carry my load

This week i watched a really cool movie with my husband called "Courageous".  If  you haven't watched it i would highly recommend doing so.
As a Pastor's wife, i was taught that i had to bring everything to God in prayer and no load, how difficult it may be, would never be beyond what we can carry.  Or can it????
I was taught as i started my adventure of living my life dedicated to the ministry of God's word, that women need to keep silent and suffer in silence if need be.  When it comes to a marriage the truth is women truly carry the much heavier load.  I guess God created us with the capability to handle multiple things at once.
I can speak for my own marriage that it frustrated me at times when my husband couldn't possibly handle the many items on my to do list.  When we decided that it was time to start our family one thing we both had agreed on was that we knew the importance of having the my husband involved with my children.  After all God created men to be the head of the household and being the head of the household carries much responsibility.  I tried for many years to explain to my husband that i didn't want my children to grow up with an absent father.  How it was important for him to pray with our children every night, read to them and play with.  Truth is i still carry much of the responsibilities when it comes to my children.  For example i handle their school meetings, their schedules, doctors appointments and much more.  After all i am my husband's helper and i am more than willing to help when it comes to the emotional and spiritual growth of our children.  This doesn't mean that my husband is off the hook.  I make sure that he carries his responsibility of being the head of our family.  I make sure that he is involved with our children so they can see him as the spiritual leader of our family.  How could my children see him as the head and spiritual leader of our home if they wouldn't spend time with him?   Doesn't make sense right?  About one year ago we had to sit down and reevaluate our parenting duties.  Not only did we evaluate our parenting duties we also evaluated our marriage.  I gave my husband the opportunity to express what he felt i needed to improve on as a wife and mother and in the same token he gave me the opportunity to do the same. 
I believe the key to a happy family is most importantly to have God in it and also to be involved with your children and most importantly show them an example of integrity.  We can't possibly expect to show our children anger or lack of involvement with them and in turn expect them to be healthy morally and emotionally.  Children lead by example.  I encourage you mothers to lead by example and i most importantly encourage the fathers to have courage and stop being cowardly towards your God given function inside your home.  Lead your family by example.  Be the head of your household by overseeing the emotional and spiritual needs of your family members. 
I say this for experience, for a long time my husband hid his responsibilities behind his church position and also his job.  I had to pray and speak openly with him and finally explain that i wasn't called to do his part inside our home.  I needed a to look up to the head of our household.  There were needs that weren't being met in our family.  He needed to connect himself to our family.  He needed to take the responsibility of evaluating the welfare of his family not only financial (to most men this is easy) but emotionally and spiritually (this tends to be the most important part that most men neglect).

My final message is being a good wife or godly wife doesn't mean that you are bond to take care of your responsibility and your husband's.  If he is neglecting his responsibility he will be held accountable for it and reap the negative effects of his actions.  I pray that you find courage to fight for a healthy home environment that your family deserves.  May God richly bless you in this!