The blame game!

Have you ever played the blame game?  You know, when everything that has ever gone wrong in front of you is always someone Else's fault.  I know i have been around that mountain several times.  I thought that if there was something that made me unhappy or if something didn't go my way there just had to be someone that caused these unfortunate events.  Truth is regardless of the opposition we might face some times there is nothing that can knock us down except for ourselves. 
We might get disappointed with something or someone, and just so you know this will happen with much more frequency than you can imagine, but ultimately we control how we want to handle the situation. 
You find people that no matter what they do or how busy they are they are not satisfied.  I know because i was one of them, actually truth be told that even as a God fearing woman i have had my moments of not feeling whole.  Much to my amazement God pointed out that i had so much to be thankful for that i couldn't afford to spend my time always feeling that i needed to be busy to feel like i was complete.  Perhaps you can't relate to this some people are a lot more laid back than others, i was never laid back and had to learn how to take each day in stride. 
Perhaps you feel a lack of fulfillment because according to your standards you don't have the perfect marriage, perfect family, perfect friends, perfect job, perfect financial situation and etc....  As you can see there is alot of things that can come into our minds to make us fell lack of wholeness and in turn this turns into lack of peace. 
I cannot speak for anyone else but my own self.  If i speak to you about marriage i speak to you about my experiences and my battles.  I will tell you that peace in marriage comes with sacrifice.  It comes with you giving love and giving love is not to expect any recompense in return, love is given freely!  Besides most man want the same thing most woman want and that is peace in the home.  So, if you are the nagging type (which most women are) than stop your nagging, no man wants to come home after a hard day at work to a nagging wife.  If you husband is the one nagging than i recommend that you pray about it.  Do not make your current situation your future.  Because you are facing something difficult doesn't mean that will be your life, with faith you can turn it around.  If you are facing a difficult situation with family than i recommend despite how rude that family member of yours can be don't lower yourself to those standards and show kindness.
If your difficulty is with friends, that's an easy one, my philosophy is if you have that certain friend that isn't adding anything good to your life than remove yourself from the situation.  No need to torment yourself with someone that you really have a choice to whether or not you want to be involved in that person's life. 
If your difficult situation is your job, pray about it, if you are not happy look for something else and if it's not meant for you to move to another job be thankful that you actually have one.  Stop complaining every time you go to work or else God will take that blessing from you and then you will really complain because you don't have money to pay your bills every month.  Speaking of bills if your difficult situation is your finances and debt than stop spending what you don't have.  live according to your means and cut a few unnecessary expenses every month until you pay off your debts (like going to restaurants, dunkin donuts and other things you splurge on). 
So like i told you before i am speaking of things i  have battled with and the solutions i found to these issues.  I feel from when i look at my past and the issues i have encountered it was no use to me to find someone to blame, i had to ultimately take responsibility for my own self and find what it was that i needed to do in order to change those situations.  I pray God gives you the humbleness and self confidence to make a difference in your own life.  Be blessed!