To be married or not to be?

Most of us spend our entire young life wanting to fall in love.  Then when the opportunity presents itself we fall in love with that one person that is the most special, unique and important to us.  I remember dreaming about my prince charming as I grew up.  Actually, all the women that I have had the opportunity to share this with say that they also dreamed of the same thing.  So what happens when we reach adulthood and the relationship we dreamed about doesn’t seem to fit the description of our dreams?  This is when disappointment settles in and the fear of spending the rest of our lives alone becomes an almost unbearable thought. 

I have been encountering so many people that are so fearful of being alone.  Unfortunately this fear leads them to jump into relationships that become emotionally draining and unhealthy.  Truth is when we say that we trust God with our future and with His ability to give us that one person that is right for us we are saying we want to trust God but still have a hand in the whole plan.  I remember reading in the Bible the following; “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1Corithians 7:8).  What the apostle Paul was trying to say is that marriage takes a lot of work and sacrifice.  So being alone might be a lot easier, but being alone isn’t meant for everyone therefore he recommends that in this case to get married.  Your sentimental life is the second most important thing after your relationship with God.  It should be dealt with cautiously.  Don’t jump into the first relationship that comes your way and pray whether the person that you think you need in your life is the one that God wants for you.  God knows our future and also knows us better than we know ourselves, so what you might think you need is probably the last thing that you should have in your life because God knows what the future outcome might be.

I believe that God never meant a man or woman to be alone.  If He did, He certainly wouldn’t have created Eve and He purposely created her so she could be of company to Adam.  However, throughout the Bible there was caution with whom the godly people would choose to marry.  Marrying the wrong person could lead to disastrous future circumstances and this proven in the Bible in many different occasions. 

My advice to those woman that are already married is the following; if you are frustrated in your relationship start praying for God to give you loving and positive eyes towards your spouse.  Sometimes we build so much resentment that it almost seems impossible to see anything good in the person that we once loved so deeply.  That love can come back much stronger than once before if we persevere and fight for it to work. 

My advice to those woman that are single; don’t be afraid of being alone, you are never alone.  God looks out for your best interest and will give you exactly what you need.  If you decide to go out to buy a new car you will look for the best deals so you don’t get ripped off and most of us won’t go for the first offer that is made to us.  In the same manner relationships need the same caution and need to be evaluated.  Be blessed and may God grant you your hearts desires for the fulfillment of a joyful life in the presence of God!